Moms Of Boys

nikks · Joined: 16 Feb 2009 Posts: 22 Location: Canada

I agree.

I also wonder if when we give a sarcastic response to an 'oh you must be busy with 3 boys' type comment, that people think we're being defensive - hiding our disappointment because we can ONLY produce boys !! We cant win ! The fact is, my life is busy with 3 children, regardless of sex. I dont feel I need to justify or respond to stupid comments. Nowadays I just smile, make a mental note and wander off.

I am very happy with my boys, I dont want a girl child in my household affecting/changing my boys lives.

3BOYMOMMY · Joined: 24 Jun 2008 Posts: 119

I have been thinking that too, am I being too defensive? Lately i have just been throwing the ball back with something like "Isn't that a personal question from a stranger?" They have been too embarrassed and good for them, I don't need them to put a ding in my day when I am out with the boys. I nearly jumped over the desk the other day at the doctors office when the receptionist said, " Aww, you really wanted a girl, or you wouldn't have 3 kids. and they are boys , thats too bad!" I really had to regulate emotion on that one, as the kids learn what they live. where do people get off? I haven't been here in a while -super busy- good to see everyone! Always looking for a good zinger- if anyone has something light and witty with which to shock and awe the ignorant!!! Happy spring:)

Granola · Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 241

..I almost slapped the taste out of the mouth of a doctor once. She was "on call", not my regular doctor. I had all three of the boys with me, the youngest was sick. She said "re they always like this?" Bitch!!!!They were doing nothing but being who they were!!!!! I hop;e to God she was "blessed" with boys!!!!!!! I'd never have it any other way.

OntarioMom · Joined: 03 Jul 2009 Posts: 32

What I think is interesting is that I just tried to do a search for "Moms of Girls + Forum". I did not come across a group. There seems to be a lot of focus on Moms of all boys, as if there is something different or wrong with it. I know lots of people that have only one girl, two girls or three girls. I guess they aren't as introspective about it as Moms of boys. I'm not sure. I guess if I had all girls I would just be looking for a forum to discuss how my husband might be feeling about me or our children having not had a son - or things that I could do to support him??? I don't know.

I am a happy Mom of 3 boys.
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JM - 4
JA - 2
KJ - NB

Mom4Boys · Joined: 09 Jul 2009 Posts: 8

Oh, I know exactly what you are going through! I get comments like this all the time. As a matter of fact I decided to do a blog about it on my blog last night. I really love how they are always asking if you are going to keep trying for a girl!? I am always like...I have never tried for a girl or a boy, just a baby! Having 4 boys is a joy and a blessing to us. I wish people could just understand that!

OntarioMom · Joined: 03 Jul 2009 Posts: 32

I agree with the comments above. We have not been out much, but I have not received any negative comments about having 3 boys. (Luckily, because I might flip..)
Our 3rd son is just under 2 weeks old and yes, I think about not having a girl but I always remind myself of how blessed we are. Could anyone possibly say "woe is me - I have 3 beautiful, healthy boys to love?". Nope. Things turn out the way they do for a reason. I feel that whether God chooses the parents or the child chooses before coming to us - either way I will rise to the occasion and thank my lucky stars for my 3 children.
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KJ - NB

vernyvern7 · Joined: 04 Feb 2010 Posts: 3 Location: Mount Sterling, KY

No, you are not the only one that gets thoughtless comments like that. We struggled for years to have children, and I am now pregnant with my second boy. We just found out the gender this week, and I cannot believe that now that we know it is a boy, people are STILL telling me they were wishing for a girl. Who are they to even have an opinion? I am happy to be having another boy and hope we have a whole slew of them!!!

Granola · Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 241

..congrats sweetie!!!!!!!! I wanted five children but it didn't happen for a lot of reason's. And, I would not have minded if they were all boys!!!! I LOVED having my three boys, others couldn't understand, tough beans!!!

nikks · Joined: 16 Feb 2009 Posts: 22 Location: Canada

Congratulations on expecting your second child, your son will be so happy to have a brother to play with.
My boys are best of friends and play all the time. Its a very special relationship they have.

ppaynehardy · Joined: 23 Feb 2010 Posts: 7 Location: Palm Harbor

I applaud each and every one of you! Such nice replies even though such insulting words are said to us. Unlike the motherinlawhell.com site I went on. Man did they blast me. I love love love my three boys and would not trade them for any girl. Yes, I wanted a girl but when I had my third child which is the number I wanted I was done. It amazes me that people think we have to fulfill some strange destiny and have a girl. I get that question all the time. " Are you going to try again?" For god sake I am almost 40 NO I don't want to try again. "Don't you want to adopt?" NO I wanted 3 children. Why is it such a crime to love our son's and be perfectly happy with them? You Mom's on here are fantastic! Thanks for the support.

Granola · Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 241

...as before mentioned, all my boys are gone. When they were living here my house was filled with boys, all their friends. Late night baking of cookies. Lot's of table talk. I raised more than three boys, I sort of raised some of their friends. Sometimes I find myself crying because I miss those times so much. They are doing exactly what they should be doing, having a life of their own. I hope my husband and I gave them the role modle for realtionships and the "knowing" of how much we loved them and all their friends. Boys? The best!!!! LOL!!! For those with girls, that's not a slam, I just know that the good Lord gave me what I needed. Smile

sabrina*1 · Joined: 14 Apr 2010 Posts: 5 Location: United States

I found out yesterday that I'm having my second boy. My MIL has said that it would be a girl, she just new it. When my hubby called her to say it was a boy, the first thing out of her mouth was,"How's my girl?" My hubby told her it was a boy, she quickly replied, "Oh, even better." Open mouth insert foot. When I was pregnant with my first boy she told me she was tired of boys and ready for another girl...oh after my boy is born though. I am not looking forward to seeing her.
My first reply on Facebook after announcing it was a boy..."is that what you wanted?" Uh, no, I was hoping for a puppy. Left by a friend who is pregnant with her first, a girl.
I will admit (here and to other MOBs) that I will miss not having a girl. however I'm excited about this boy and I know I will love him like my other son, to pieces.

OntarioMom · Joined: 03 Jul 2009 Posts: 32

My third son is now 10 months old and I am still thinking about the topic of being a Mom of all Boys. I don't know why I can't shake it, but I seem to been a bit "stuck" on the whole thing. I found this forum right after we brought our son home when I felt that I needed to connect with other moms of boys and make sense of not having a daughter. Anyway, like I said, it is still on my mind but I can tell you that I LOVE my 3 boys and love the thought of raising them. I really am cut out for this since I am more of a fishing, camping, nature exploring person that a girly-girl. I would love to have a daughter because I feel like I "want it all" - the "full experience" - but I hope to soon just get on with it and love love love it up with my 3 sons so that I don't waste too much time thinking about something that is really not that relevant. If you really want to talk to other moms of boys there are also several groups on Mom Cafe.
Take care.
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OntarioMom

Mom of:
JM - 4
JA - 2
KJ - NB

myboysandme · Joined: 23 Apr 2010 Posts: 12

Hi OntarioMom!! Congrats on your third boy! I completely understand what you are going through. I am new to this site! You can read my introduction post...go to "Saying Hi" forum. I am expecting my third boy this summer Razz

If you ever need to talk or vent let me know. It is nice have people to reach out to who can relate. I have sibling and they have kids but no one has all the same gender so what I am experiencing currently I feel that they cannot relate. We as a family just went to the grocery store this weekend and the cashier asked us what we are having. My oldest son told her with excitement, "A boy!" She said to me, oh I will pray for you or something like that. Then she told my husband he better buy me flowers everyday. Then the lady behind me said, Oh boy you are out numbered now. I just politely smiled and turned to my husband as we walked away see what I have to go through on a daily basis....It makes me so frustrated. No wonder why we can't shake the whole thing about being a mother of all boys, because people won't let us. Honestly would we really feel like this if people didn't throw their two cents in?

Granola · Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 241

....F everyone who doesn't have the sense to relaize the birth of child is the only thing that matters. Sorry for being crude but I'm so damn sick of people saying the crap they say beacause we have boys!!! I wouldn't have it any other way!!!!! For those who wanted a girl, sorry you didn't have one but I be damn if ANYONE has the right to say anything about it! We are given what we have, period. No, I'm not saying those who didn't have a girl can be sad, I'm talking about the ass's who comment on it. Hang in there sweet ladies!!!!